Why Are You Making It So Hard?

by Kenneth Vogt
Content Crooner Inc.

The biggest obstacles a person will face come from within. This is true in life and it is true in business also, so when we analyze the problems we have daily, we need to examine this. Most of our daily difficulties begin simple, but we distort them and soon something small becomes a manifestation of something hugely out of proportion.

Nearly all difficulties can be overcome, but you must recognize when there is an obstacle. Generally an obstacle feels difficult to deal with, essentially you just don't like it. You have to ask yourself this one question when you are confronted with things that are difficult. Why are you making it so hard?

Here is a very basic example.

If you are interested in doing business with someone in your local community, it is normal to get some information about them before meeting them. Suppose while when you were doing a general search about their business you discovered that an ex-associate once worked for them. Because this ex-associate and you still have unresolved issues, you begin exploring their online website and reading through some of the reviews left on their webpages. You do this with the intent of finding any indication that this person is unethical in their business practices. Well if you do this long enough, it is guaranteed that you will find something to convince yourself that they are.

What happened here is something that many people do, we free associate things in our experience and project them onto a current situational familiarity. In the described situation, the end result often will be that you find something you don't like and then decide not to even approach the business at all. Before you ran into the name of your former associate, the opinion you had of that business was good and you wanted to do business with them. Now you have not only changed your mind for an irrational reason, but may have potentially lost a new and valuable contact for your business.

The truth is this situation has a very simple solution. Recognize that any similarities between your former associate and this other business are unlikely. They no longer work for the company, so you will not be running into them. Even if you did, think about the fact that you wanted to do business with them and your unresolved issues with anyone should not have that kind of control over you. But even that is making things too hard.

What you really need to do, is recognize that you should have tried to forgive your past associate long ago. Even if things were left badly, let it go. Because it is now having effects on your decision making. By doing so it is a win-win situation. You still get to make a potential new business contact and if you ever see your former associate again, you will be able to handle seeing them without the same irrational reaction. Forgive the past and get on with the future.

Letting go of the junk is how human beings move forward. It is not as hard as we make it.

Kenneth Vogt is CEO of Content Crooner, a high quality content distribution service that gets you more targeted web traffic. Discover how to create quality content that drives targeted traffic to your web site in our free report.

Article submitted Wednesday, November 23, 2011 & read 4 times.

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